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TEEN DATING VIOLENCE

Are You Abusive

Most abusive people don’t view themselves as abusive. They believe that they are normal people who are occasionally forced to show their partner exactly who is in charge If you find yourself being abusive, it is important to take some time to think about your actions and their affects on the people for who you care. Look at the ways in which you deal with jealousy, anger, rejection and stress and ways that you can better cope with these emotion. Think about how you would like to be treated. Most abusive teens have been raised in abusive homes, and do not

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We are a non-profit 501 c 3 organization, formed after the murder of the founder’s daughter. Sheri’s mother decided there was a great need to spread awareness and prevention of domestic violence by doing presentations and writing a book, “Not in Vain” A true story of what happens in the aftermath of a domestic murder. The Mission of Sheri’s House of Hope, Inc is to spread awareness and prevention of domestic violence to our community and to provide a safe home to educate and give hope to women and their children.

What is Teen Dating Violence

Teen dating violence occurs when two, unmarried people are in a relationship and one of them is harming the other or they both harming each other. Dating violence occurs among many different groups, with out regards to race, economic levels, and social status. In about 95% of cases of dating violence, a female is the victim, however, males can also be the victims of dating violence. In some cases, both parties of a relationship are abusive towards each other. In order to understand and prevent dating violence, we must understand what violence is. One thing that is common among all forms of dating violence is the abusive act’s purpose, which is to make the victim afraid, control them and increase the victims’ dependency on the abuser.

The Cycle of Violence

Stage 1:

Tension building is a time of minor conflicts when one partner becomes very moody and is easily agitated. This causes the other partner to feel like they’re walking on eggshells. Threats of violence may increase. Stage 1 may last from a couple of hours to months depending upon the pattern frequency.

Stage 2:

Violence erupts from the tension building of the previous stage. One partner explodes into emotional verbal, physical or sexual abuse. The violent one may throw objects, hit, slap, kick, choke or use weapons against the other. Once the attack starts, there is little the victim can do to stop it.

 

Stage 3:

A period of remorse or reconciliation may follow. This is often called the “Honeymoon” phase. The abusive partner may apologize excessively, and may give gifts or express guild or shame about their actions. The victimized partner may experience many different emotions from anger to love to confusion. The victim want to believe the abusive partner will change, but because the abusive partner has not received domestic violence treatment they have not! There is a lapse in time, but soon Stage 1 begins again. Every time this occurs, the violence could become more severe.

Warning Signs

You may be at risk if the person you are dating:

 

 Is jealous and possessive toward you and tries to control what you wear or how you look.

 

 Frequently show up to places where you will be invited

 

 Tries to control you by giving you orders and making your decisions.

 

 Disrespects and humiliates you in front of other.

 

 Texts and calls much too often to check up on you

 

 Is violent or loses temper quickly and tries to scare you with intimidating looks, gestures or driving recklessly

 

 Pressures you or forces you into sex or to smoke, drink or use drugs

 

 Gets too serious about a relationship too fast or speaks ill of previous relationships

 

 Threatens to hurt themselves because of you

 

 Makes you feel like nobody wants you or cares about you the he/she does and isolates you from your friends and family

 

 Pressures you to quit school, work or extracurricular activities Teenagers can choose better relationships when they learn to identify the early warning signs of an abusive relationship. How to Help a Friend:

 

 If you notice a friend is in an abusive relationship, let them know you are worried but do not judge them because when they do decide to talk to someone about it, they will feel they cannot confide in you.

 

 Point out to your friend’s positive qualities and strengths,. Many people who are in abusive relationships are no longer capable of seeing the qualities that they possess.

 

 If your friend ends their abusive relationship, be there to support them. Do not be surprised if they return to their abuser. Many victims return to their ‘apologetic’ abuser several times before finally leaving for good.

 

 Never confront the abuser; you will put yourself and your friend in a dangerous situation.

 

 Call the police if you witness an act of abuse. attack starts, there is little the victim can do to stop it.

 Threatens to hurt themselves because of you

 

 Makes you feel like nobody wants you or cares about you the he/she does and isolates you from your friends and family

 

 Pressures you to quit school, work or extra curricular activities Teenagers can choose better relationships when they learn to identify the early warning signs in a realtionship.

How to Help a Friend

 If you notice a friend is in an abusive relationship, let them know you are worried but do not judge them because when they do decide to talk to someone about it, they will feel they cannot confide in you.

 

 Point out to your friend’s positive qualities and strengths,. Many people who are in abusive relationships are no longer capable of seeing the qualities that they possess.

 

 If your friend ends their abusive relationship, be there to support them. Do not be surprised if they return to their abuser. Many victims return to their ‘apologetic’ abuser several times before finally leaving for good.

 

 Never confront the abuser; you will put yourself and your friend in a dangerous situation.

 

 Call the police if you witness an act of abuse

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